Tuesday, December 27, 2011


To all my readers and to the world in general:

Wishing 2012 be the best year you can remember. I am not going to say let ALL your wishes come true (as most of us don't believe in such luck).
What I wish is that your most desirable wish will come true in 2012; be it Finding True Love, Opening up a business, Advancing in your career, Getting pregnant, Getting married, Going to Brazil (your destination), Making love to Ryan Gosling (as long as your wish of getting married didn't come first:), Writing a book, Making a fortune and spending it on Travel, Family Reunion, 1 month vacation, Sleeping 8 hours a day, or Simply being happier.
Seriously, I want you to pick just One of your most desirable wishes and really believe that it will come true. I promise that as long as you truly believe it's possible it will happen. And if you post it on my blog, I'll make sure to talk to God about it, and we'll see what we can do ;)
Joke aside, I believe that anything is possible; that is realistically possible, something you know you can do but have very little faith, self doubt yourself or are simply afraid. Those are false and limiting mind sets that are keeping you away from achieving your dreams.
So please pick one wish, and know that no matter what happens to the rest of them this ONE will definitely come to reality.

As for me, tonight I am flying to Mother Russia to spend the most important day for me (NYE) with my parents, my mom and dad. This has been my dream for the last 10 years and is finally coming true!

I will reconnect with you all in 2012. Blessings your way and lots of love.

Friday, December 23, 2011

New Series

Cheers to everyone.

Just wanted to alert you that I'll be starting a couple of new theme series besides my "usual suspects", which are "Burning Questions Answered", "Dating Game", my love search/research, etc.
I've been thinking that as much as I love to keep developing myself, I would like the same for my blog.
Life is ever changing, and as I always say: "The only thing that is for sure is Change". It's not an original idea, it's been around for centuries, but has been my modus operandi for most of my adult life. Sorry for digressing again but once you embrace this philosophy you'll feel the weight lift off your shoulders and you'll feel excited about the future. Just take my word for it and try it:)

Anyway back to my new series, I'm going to explore on the following subjects:

1) Sex and sexuality;

2) Online dating experience;

3) Focusing on yourself, making your life a priority.

I know they all sound unrelated and somewhat unexpected. But that is the way I am: ever growing, ever exploring, ever developing.

All the subjects are of particular interest (passion really) to me. And writing about them is kind of a next logical step.
Here is some feedback:

1) Sex: I love. Honestly, crazy about it (if not obsessed at times). It's probably the only thing I would miss when I die (hopefully there is plenty of it wherever we go after our lives end here on Earth:). Sex is my forte and I can no longer keep it away from my blog. As such it will be fully addressed, with my usual passion and curiosity.

2) Online dating: I tried a few months ago, precisely after my trip to Spain in September. And let me tell you, it was nothing but a pure excitement. very unpredictable and totally exhilarating. Details to follow, and so is the name of the "best" online dating website these days:) it's specifically tailored for New Yorkers.

3) Focusing on myself. Once again I've decided to focus entirely on myself. Precisely, I am in the process of figuring out what I want to do with my professional growth. Basically, I want to work for myself. And as a strong woman with a secret distaste for following orders, I want to be my own boss.  Depend on no one.

In the meantime, I'll write about it all and keep you updated. As always, I wish to be an inspiration to those who are looking for answers, who are in a constant search for a more meaningful life. Wishing you all to have new plans and ideas for yourself as well. Especially now, that we are rolling into a new year. Not the best time to put pressure on yourself but always a good time to make an inventory of your plans (big and small). Take time and think of your dreams, desires and how important they are.

I am there for you.

Happy New Year!

Friday, December 16, 2011

Consequences of "Burning Questions Answered, Part III"

In my last post, after a significant shock endured, I proclaimed that I would once again focus on Me, Myself and I. In the end, this is so much easier to handle than love matters..

True to myself, that is exactly what I've been doing. I've started thinking about my life and the future. But you would think It's Fantastic, right? Well let me tell you, my reaction to this question is the same as of an any man when asked by his woman "Where are we standing and Where is it going?" Yes, terrified and unsure, wishing this question never popped, and the conversation didn't just wait to follow. But it's out there and you know, as a strong and responsible human being, you'll have to face it eventually.
So as much as I'd rather shove it back and move carelessly and lazily with my life as it is right now, I am pondering on my answer. Yes, I am a strong one, and to my own fault.
Basically I've been spending most of my free time thinking on what to do with my professional growth. What is my new passion that would make me tick once again and occupy my busy mind? What is it that would keep me going even when I only had 4 hours of sleep and it's below 30F outside? What is it that would shift my mind from sex and relationships once again?
Believe me, I love my job (otherwise I wouldn't be doing it), but I don't think I've reached my potential, not even close. Naturally I believe that there is more that I have and would eventually do. Doesn't everyone?
In any case, I am glad that I am off the subject of love for awhile and back to my own self. Whatever happens in the meantime is life, but the rest is my own making. And that is, my friends, all and completely up to me :)

Everyone, enjoy your holidays: Hanukkah, Christmas, Kwanza, etc. And remember it's your life first, and the rest is just an app that either makes your life easier or more complicated. Your choice. But it's you who decides what's more important. Cheers!

Friday, December 9, 2011

Burning questions answered, Part III

Last Monday, I asked my male colleague/friend at work a question and, honestly, was shocked when I heard his answer. I actually think it was the biggest shock I got in a very long time.
Judge for yourself, here it is:

Me: "When did you realize that your wife was the One? and what made you believe this?"
Man: "There is no such thing as the One. At some point, when you're ready to settle down, you find the woman who has a lot in common with you. What she wants from life at this point also matters if it matches your desires."

As simple as that? No kidding. I spent years, years! searching/researching/investigating to understand how one realizes that this is the One and only. I truly believed that this is what makes the world go round and come back despite all wars and global warming. I bet my whole experiment on love on this. I reserved myself from great men, amazing lovers simply because I thought they weren't the ONE. And the Man tells me that There is no such thing as the One. Make peace with it. Men don't think there is the One and Only. They believe there is timing and inevitability..

Me: "How is it possible? I always thought I had to end up with a man I thought was the One for me. This is the reason I never got married, never had family, kids (kids!). This is the reason I still searched for I truly believed I needed, No I had to, feel that he was the One. And you're telling me that men don't care about it?"

Man: "Sasha, you're a smart girl. Don't think about it too much. Focus on your own life, and don't make relationships your priority. Or you risk to be disappointed a lot. Don't make relationships your priority in life, period. You have so much in you!"

Thank you my man. Thank you for telling me this, it's like I finally saw the picture in its real colors, I finally could see why so many people get married/divorced, have kids and then leave. Really, if men don't think they need to search for a woman that makes them believe she is the One, why should we, women, spend our lives doing just that? But wait a second, there are women who probably don't believe that either and just marry for other reasons. Could it be the reason there is more than a 50% divorce rate in the country?

I was happy to learn about this. Even more, I was happy to follow his advice about not making relationships my priority. Once I made it my Modus Operandi, the weight had actually lifted off my shoulders and I was able to focus once again on the most precious thing in my life: Me:) And only good productive things come out of it, believe me.

But I've still decided for myself that I don't want to risk to be the part of those unfortunate <50% as long as I don't settle down with the one who simply doesn't feel or seem right. I simply refuse to contribute to the growth of this figure.. For now? I'll just focus on Me, and relationships won't be my priority. They will be a dessert I decide either to have or not after I had a delicious and satisfying meal. Bon appetit, everyone!