Tuesday, January 24, 2012

Online Dating, I

Cheers everyone,

Here I am launching another one of my promised (hopefully anticipated!) new series "Online Dating".
Yes, I tried it myself and am willing to share this fun but completely unnatural (for me) experience.

Last August, after a much needed break from my summer disappointments on the love front (covered in my prior posts), I was ready to start dating again. As much as I appreciate time to reflect, I also like to take chances, to have action you know.. Besides, wasn't it my dream to fall in love again?
So I said to myself that the whole dating game would never be complete without mine trying online dating.

Not willing to spend more than 10min on setting up a profile and wasting my precious time on writing back and forth (culprits of the famous dating sites), I was excited to find a new site tailored specifically for impatient and strained for time New Yorkers. You just answer 4-5 questions (if you want), upload a few pics and state what you want to do for a date. So this is how I signed up at "Howaboutwe.com". The plan: 3 months - 3 dates. 3 dates was a ceiling for me as I never really believed in online dating. I agree some people do find their love online but it simply isn't my style. I am a person of a moment, of a universal coincidence. Love for me is too magical to be associated with something so predictable and mainstream as online dating.
In any case, it was an experiment and I decided to give it my best effort just for the sake of it. 3 dates in 3 months (Spain trip in between doesn't count:).
Date 1: Cale and I were emailing each other for a few weeks, he was busy traveling, I was busy making my travel plans. Needless to say, we only met after I came back from Spain, mid September.
His profile stated his height at 5'8 and athletic body type. So I knew he wasn't the tallest guy in the room. Though the picture he sent showed a reasonably shaped (for a guy) frame. But damn was I surprised when I met him. Don't get me wrong, I'm 5'6, size 2 and even in heels am not supposed to feel like a giant next to a guy. With him, I did.
Sorry Cale, you are a super smart guy and when we were sitting and talking I had a wonderful time, and almost thought there would be a second date in the future. But once we got up again I knew it stood no chance..

No biggie, I still had 2 dates to go, this time proper physical screening was a must. Judge all you want, but I want a man who can lift me up and take me to bed (if such opportunity ever presents itself:)

Stay tuned for my Date 2.  

Monday, January 23, 2012


Hi all,

I just wanted to explain my temporary disappearance. I am simply swamped with so many things that don't want to rush thru my postings. You see, I take my blog seriously :) I really care what I write about and when and how I do it. I can say with utmost certainty that each of my posts is straight from my heart. Even though once I sit down and write, it simply flows, I do still like to devote special time and space for this. I need to feel that it's something special.
So lately, I've been limited on that special time and space. And due to stressful personal events and a crunch time at work, in my spare time I've been doing yoga instead. That way I am able to stay collected and focused during tough times. By the way, I really underestimated the power of yoga. and very thankful that my life pushed me to try it. I simply fell in love. My body has never been so alive and attuned to my whole being. I feel light and enlightened. Sometimes I feel that I am not even walking but floating in the air. It's that good. Please try it if you have that opportunity. I go to Reebok sports club that has daily yoga classes to meet anyone's needs. I'm convinced it's even more powerful to do it in a classroom with people than alone. that way it's collective energy that is lifting you up and takes you higher.

Just take my word for it, and give it a try. You won't be disappointed.

I promise to be back very soon with my love stories and inspirations.


Friday, January 13, 2012

Sex and sexuality, Launch

Cheers all in the new year.

I would like to start 2012 with one of my new series mentioned earlier, and my favorite no less!

The reason I decided to launch this conversation is my authentic interest and passion about sex and sexuality. Let me tell you, I am not the one who lowers her voice and puts her eyes down when a subject of sex is raised. I am the one who brings the subject up, and talks about it with the seriousness common to any other important life matter.
Why do I have such a liberal and open attitude about it I am not entirely sure myself.
I don't think it has to do with the upbringing or cultural background as much as with my own DNA. You see my parents weren't hippies walking around the house naked and talking to me and my sister about sex when we were growing up. In fact, my parents got married super young and were the first partner for each other. The only experience I remember from my childhood is my secret late nite playboy watching when everyone was asleep. I believe I was 11-12 y.o. I don't think my parents even suspected that every Saturday after midnight, a regular movie channel would switch to an erotic/sexual content.
Playboy shows were amazing in the 90's (unlike these days), they were erotic and sensual. I would feel almost intoxicated and would be looking forward to them every week.
Then I had a pretty normal sexual development, having my first sexual experience when I was 17, which was a major disappointment to my parents that I had sex outside of marriage. But when I shoot them straight in their faces with my honest "I could never imagine marrying someone I never had sex with", they realized I was of my own making and there is nothing they could do about it.

Anyway, this is a little bit of history on how I started developing my sexuality.

With time and experience, I learned that sex was one of the most important things for me when it came to relationships. Simply put, I would never be with someone I don't have a healthy and beautiful sex life with. Then I noticed that all my girl-friends would come talk to me about it, even my male friends. They would confide and talk about things they didn't feel comfortable about talking to others. I've become a sex guru in my circles :) The fact that I've always been the best sex partner for my boy-friends (so they told me:) made me realize that there is something more than my interest and passion. I realized it's my natural knowledge, my forte. I even consulted an expert on this, and he confirmed that I am more of a dying breed in our modern world "..You are a seductress of a very specific type not seen much in this jaded age of moral anxiety and sexual repression. Your kind was more often seen in the heyday of the ancient mystery Temples of Aphrodite, Astarte and Ishtar where priestesses served the sensual Divine..." his exact words.

The reason I am sharing all this with you is that I want you to know that I am not just some amateur but someone who has a natural and life proven knowledge about sex and sexuality in respect that other people don't. And since this subject is off limits in our society I've decided to take on a lead here. As I know for a fact many (if not all) people are dying to talk about it and would love it to be more addressed and accepted. Really it's just like your diet, physical regimen, life style, etc. But for some reason, has become frowned upon and eliminated from our daily lives.

So embrace yourself, as I'll embrace sexuality and discuss it on my blog in the most natural and free flowing way.