Online Dating, I

Cheers everyone,

Here I am launching another one of my promised (hopefully anticipated!) new series "Online Dating".
Yes, I tried it myself and am willing to share this fun but completely unnatural (for me) experience.

Last August, after a much needed break from my summer disappointments on the love front (covered in my prior posts), I was ready to start dating again. As much as I appreciate time to reflect, I also like to take chances, to have action you know.. Besides, wasn't it my dream to fall in love again?
So I said to myself that the whole dating game would never be complete without mine trying online dating.

Not willing to spend more than 10min on setting up a profile and wasting my precious time on writing back and forth (culprits of the famous dating sites), I was excited to find a new site tailored specifically for impatient and strained for time New Yorkers. You just answer 4-5 questions (if you want), upload a few pics and state what you want to do for a date. So this is how I signed up at "Howaboutwe.com". The plan: 3 months - 3 dates. 3 dates was a ceiling for me as I never really believed in online dating. I agree some people do find their love online but it simply isn't my style. I am a person of a moment, of a universal coincidence. Love for me is too magical to be associated with something so predictable and mainstream as online dating.
In any case, it was an experiment and I decided to give it my best effort just for the sake of it. 3 dates in 3 months (Spain trip in between doesn't count:).
Date 1: Cale and I were emailing each other for a few weeks, he was busy traveling, I was busy making my travel plans. Needless to say, we only met after I came back from Spain, mid September.
His profile stated his height at 5'8 and athletic body type. So I knew he wasn't the tallest guy in the room. Though the picture he sent showed a reasonably shaped (for a guy) frame. But damn was I surprised when I met him. Don't get me wrong, I'm 5'6, size 2 and even in heels am not supposed to feel like a giant next to a guy. With him, I did.

Sorry Cale, you are a super smart guy and when we were sitting and talking I had a wonderful time, and almost thought there would be a second date in the future. But once we got up again I knew it stood no chance..

No biggie, I still had 2 dates to go, this time proper physical screening was a must. Judge all you want, but I want a man who can lift me up and take me to bed (if such opportunity ever presents itself:)

Stay tuned for my Date 2.  

Update

Hi all,

I just wanted to explain my temporary disappearance. I am simply swamped with so many things that don't want to rush thru my postings. You see, I take my blog seriously :) I really care what I write about and when and how I do it. I can say with utmost certainty that each of my posts is straight from my heart. Even though once I sit down and write, it simply flows, I do still like to devote special time and space for this. I need to feel that it's something special.
So lately, I've been limited on that special time and space. And due to stressful personal events and a crunch time at work, in my spare time I've been doing yoga instead. That way I am able to stay collected and focused during tough times. By the way, I really underestimated the power of yoga. and very thankful that my life pushed me to try it. I simply fell in love. My body has never been so alive and attuned to my whole being. I feel light and enlightened. Sometimes I feel that I am not even walking but floating in the air. It's that good. Please try it if you have that opportunity. I go to Reebok sports club that has daily yoga classes to meet anyone's needs. I'm convinced it's even more powerful to do it in a classroom with people than alone. that way it's collective energy that is lifting you up and takes you higher.

Just take my word for it, and give it a try. You won't be disappointed.

I promise to be back very soon with my love stories and inspirations.

Namaste!
  

Sex and sexuality, Launch

Cheers all in the new year.

I would like to start 2012 with one of my new series mentioned earlier, and my favorite no less!

The reason I decided to launch this conversation is my authentic interest and passion about sex and sexuality. Let me tell you, I am not the one who lowers her voice and puts her eyes down when a subject of sex is raised. I am the one who brings the subject up, and talks about it with the seriousness common to any other important life matter.
Why do I have such a liberal and open attitude about it I am not entirely sure myself.
I don't think it has to do with the upbringing or cultural background as much as with my own DNA. You see my parents weren't hippies walking around the house naked and talking to me and my sister about sex when we were growing up. In fact, my parents got married super young and were the first partner for each other. The only experience I remember from my childhood is my secret late nite playboy watching when everyone was asleep. I believe I was 11-12 y.o. I don't think my parents even suspected that every Saturday after midnight, a regular movie channel would switch to an erotic/sexual content.
Playboy shows were amazing in the 90's (unlike these days), they were erotic and sensual. I would feel almost intoxicated and would be looking forward to them every week.
Then I had a pretty normal sexual development, having my first sexual experience when I was 17, which was a major disappointment to my parents that I had sex outside of marriage. But when I shoot them straight in their faces with my honest "I could never imagine marrying someone I never had sex with", they realized I was of my own making and there is nothing they could do about it.

Anyway, this is a little bit of history on how I started developing my sexuality.

With time and experience, I learned that sex was one of the most important things for me when it came to relationships. Simply put, I would never be with someone I don't have a healthy and beautiful sex life with. Then I noticed that all my girl-friends would come talk to me about it, even my male friends. They would confide and talk about things they didn't feel comfortable about talking to others. I've become a sex guru in my circles :) The fact that I've always been the best sex partner for my boy-friends (so they told me:) made me realize that there is something more than my interest and passion. I realized it's my natural knowledge, my forte. I even consulted an expert on this, and he confirmed that I am more of a dying breed in our modern world "..You are a seductress of a very specific type not seen much in this jaded age of moral anxiety and sexual repression. Your kind was more often seen in the heyday of the ancient mystery Temples of Aphrodite, Astarte and Ishtar where priestesses served the sensual Divine..." his exact words.

The reason I am sharing all this with you is that I want you to know that I am not just some amateur but someone who has a natural and life proven knowledge about sex and sexuality in respect that other people don't. And since this subject is off limits in our society I've decided to take on a lead here. As I know for a fact many (if not all) people are dying to talk about it and would love it to be more addressed and accepted. Really it's just like your diet, physical regimen, life style, etc. But for some reason, has become frowned upon and eliminated from our daily lives.

So embrace yourself, as I'll embrace sexuality and discuss it on my blog in the most natural and free flowing way.

2012

To all my readers and to the world in general:

Wishing 2012 be the best year you can remember. I am not going to say let ALL your wishes come true (as most of us don't believe in such luck).
What I wish is that your most desirable wish will come true in 2012; be it Finding True Love, Opening up a business, Advancing in your career, Getting pregnant, Getting married, Going to Brazil (your destination), Making love to Ryan Gosling (as long as your wish of getting married didn't come first:), Writing a book, Making a fortune and spending it on Travel, Family Reunion, 1 month vacation, Sleeping 8 hours a day, or Simply being happier.
Seriously, I want you to pick just One of your most desirable wishes and really believe that it will come true. I promise that as long as you truly believe it's possible it will happen. And if you post it on my blog, I'll make sure to talk to God about it, and we'll see what we can do ;)
Joke aside, I believe that anything is possible; that is realistically possible, something you know you can do but have very little faith, self doubt yourself or are simply afraid. Those are false and limiting mind sets that are keeping you away from achieving your dreams.
So please pick one wish, and know that no matter what happens to the rest of them this ONE will definitely come to reality.

As for me, tonight I am flying to Mother Russia to spend the most important day for me (NYE) with my parents, my mom and dad. This has been my dream for the last 10 years and is finally coming true!

I will reconnect with you all in 2012. Blessings your way and lots of love.

New Series

Cheers to everyone.

Just wanted to alert you that I'll be starting a couple of new theme series besides my "usual suspects", which are "Burning Questions Answered", "Dating Game", my love search/research, etc.
I've been thinking that as much as I love to keep developing myself, I would like the same for my blog.
Life is ever changing, and as I always say: "The only thing that is for sure is Change". It's not an original idea, it's been around for centuries, but has been my modus operandi for most of my adult life. Sorry for digressing again but once you embrace this philosophy you'll feel the weight lift off your shoulders and you'll feel excited about the future. Just take my word for it and try it:)

Anyway back to my new series, I'm going to explore on the following subjects:

1) Sex and sexuality;

2) Online dating experience;

3) Focusing on yourself, making your life a priority.

I know they all sound unrelated and somewhat unexpected. But that is the way I am: ever growing, ever exploring, ever developing.

All the subjects are of particular interest (passion really) to me. And writing about them is kind of a next logical step.
Here is some feedback:

1) Sex: I love. Honestly, crazy about it (if not obsessed at times). It's probably the only thing I would miss when I die (hopefully there is plenty of it wherever we go after our lives end here on Earth:). Sex is my forte and I can no longer keep it away from my blog. As such it will be fully addressed, with my usual passion and curiosity.

2) Online dating: I tried a few months ago, precisely after my trip to Spain in September. And let me tell you, it was nothing but a pure excitement. very unpredictable and totally exhilarating. Details to follow, and so is the name of the "best" online dating website these days:) it's specifically tailored for New Yorkers.

3) Focusing on myself. Once again I've decided to focus entirely on myself. Precisely, I am in the process of figuring out what I want to do with my professional growth. Basically, I want to work for myself. And as a strong woman with a secret distaste for following orders, I want to be my own boss.  Depend on no one.

In the meantime, I'll write about it all and keep you updated. As always, I wish to be an inspiration to those who are looking for answers, who are in a constant search for a more meaningful life. Wishing you all to have new plans and ideas for yourself as well. Especially now, that we are rolling into a new year. Not the best time to put pressure on yourself but always a good time to make an inventory of your plans (big and small). Take time and think of your dreams, desires and how important they are.

I am there for you.

Happy New Year!