Sex and sexuality, IV

In this post I'll share one of my methods to bring in sexuality into your every day life which will ultimately take your sex life to a higher level.

I'll be addressing each method separately just so it's not too overwhelming all at once. Also I've learned that in order to master something close to perfection, it's best to take one step at a time. So let's get started.

I want to speak to women now (men are welcome to listen as always:). Ladies, we all need to fall in love with our bodies. It's essential. Please get over the publicized images of what's considered beautiful and what's not. The truth is it's not the shape but how a woman holds it and even more importantly how she feels about it. Our bodies are our temples to foster our souls in this life time experience. We need to give them some gratitude, don't you think.

And if you start appreciating your body, you'll want to nourish it, you'll want to take a better care of it. And the best part is it's all in your hands. Let your body move, let it rest, let it guide you. Haven't you ever noticed, even when you didn't feel motivated to go the gym or do any physical activity, once you did, you felt amazing afterwards. It was that little (really not helpful/sabotaging) voice telling you how tired you were, and just not feeling like doing anything, and finding all kinds of excuses to avoid a workout. Once you shut that little voice down and took your butt for a run, yoga class, etc, your body was so happy that even that little voice in the end had nothing to say. Yes, we all had that experience. So just remember how happy and elevated you felt after your workout, how light and flexible your body felt. How sexy you felt then?

Yes, when we feel happy in our bodies, we feel sexy. 

So my first mantra for you is to become physical, i.e. find sport, activity that speaks to you and makes your body happy. then do it, do it as much and as often as you can. Happy and open body is your most important foundation to feel sexy, to exude sexuality from within. 

But it's not only with physical activity that we nourish our bodies, we need to give it a beautiful wrapping too:) I think nothing is more sensual than a high quality lingerie. Ladies, just dressing yourself in a nice lingerie on any day of the week, will take you that one giant step closer to discovering your Inner Sex Goddess. You know what I like to do that makes me feel like a Goddess right away. Putting on bright red La Perla on a regular day at work. Especially if I wear a button down shirt and pants. Who would even suspect what's happening underneath? But I do, and it creates that special sex appeal around me even on an average work day. Or how about boy shorts on a date? I know I can be kinky. But seriously it's all about having fun while creating sexual vibes around yourself. It's letting your body enjoy itself and being playful with it.

So get out there, do something physical, let your body dance, sing, open up. Then go get La Perla (my choice) or a good lingerie line you like. Put it on and start letting your Inner Sex Goddess shine thru.

I'm with you all the way! 

Love

P.S. For the guys who read this post please feel free to leave your feedback. I know you have a lot to agree to here.

Love your Diet

Today, I had an appointment with a nutritionist at my gym. Not that I needed it, it was complements of my gym and I decided to go for it just out of curiosity.
So basically, while we talked she was blown away with what I was telling her. It turned into a session of her asking me questions and making notes for herself. What can I say, I shared the secrets of my diet in the most passionate and inspiring way. Seeing how it got her so excited, I had to share it with you, my favorite people :)

First of all, I am size 2, athletic type, with weight fluctuation no more than +- 3pounds. What can I say, I still wear jeans from 7 years ago.
And my diet is: I eat whatever I want, whenever I want it. The only thing I don't eat is meat, for the same simple reason, I don't wear fir coats. I don't want to have animals killed. Anything else I eat and never look at calories. I eat chocolate every day. But I also eat a lot of fruits and vegetables. I eat cheese and bread. I eat macaroons (French cream filled cookies), and I always put honey in my yogurt even if it has fruit in it. Basically, I listen to my body and give it whatever it wants and wherever it wants it. And if I don't feel like eating I don't even if it's a 5 star restaurant.

Years ago I read a great book on power of mind. I don't remember the title or the author but his idea was that what we focus on is what we bring into our lives. Hardly a new concept. But he used a diet as an example. He explained the reason why diets don't work. Because any diet makes one focus on food all the time. People think about it, they obsess about it, they fear it, they fight it. The result is poor diet choices and suffering which in the end results in more gained weight. He said if we took our minds off food and focused on something else, and only eat what our body tells us and whenever it requests it, we would never have to battle excess weight. Simply put, what you resist, persists. I was exhilarated to read it, as this is exactly how I do it.

I never worry about calories and if I want chocolate and ice cream, I go for the richest of all. I want to enjoy it. What would be the purpose of eating it if I don't enjoy it. The same reason, Europeans have no weight issue. They enjoy their foods, they never diet. Majority at least. I know I am from there and spend a lot of time there.

Of course, I am very active and work out almost every day. But still my diet is an envy of everyone in the office, since they see me eating whatever/whenever and not just sticking to 3 meals a day as most of them do. By the way, those who are more like me don't have weight issue. It's usually people who stress about food, count calories and talk about it all the time, that have weight problem.

I am not trying to make you follow my diet but if you are worried about your weight you might want to consider it as an option. Take your mind off food, focus on other fun things. And eat what your body is asking for, but be mindful, listen to it, don't ignore it. It knows what's best for you and will take care of you if you just listen.

Bon apetit.

Bedtime ritual

If you like me, find it absolutely necessary to bring sensuality into your life on a daily basis then this post is for you.

Whether in a relationship or single, it's equally important to incorporate sensuality into your life. Especially when you're single, as we tend to completely avoid it at the time. Creating sensuality around yourself will in an instant make you feel frisky and excited. And then you notice how amazing it feels, and how much love is inside you.

I'll share one of the rituals I do every night when I am single (which I currently am:)
First of all, I always go to bed fresh and clean. Shower before bed is a must for me. Water is therapeutic and is the easiest (though overlooked) way to rinse off the day's energy, and rid your body of any negative vibes you might have picked up during the day. So take a shower consciously, feeling how all the negativity is washing away, the day is over and nothing matters but how you prepare yourself for the next day. Thank water for its wonders.

Always sleep in clean fresh sheets. I prefer white over all colors and they have to be soft and feel nice to my body. Your bed should be your sanctuary where your body, mind and soul rest and recharge for the day to come. Keep lights low, light up a candle right next to you and spend a few minutes staring at it. It's called candle meditation and should help you unwind your mind. Put on some sensual music. If you like to have a glass of wine, make it a small one, or really best to avoid any alcohol. I usually read something, or write my blog, or............

You can do something you enjoy very much, it's up to you:)

Basically, it's about creating sensuality around yourself and falling asleep with it. If done right, you're guaranteed sweet dreams and an easy awakening in the morning, which is the best way to start a day.

Sweet dreams:)

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Sex and sexuality, III

Since my last post about Sex and Sexuality was addressed to ladies (or as I like to say these days, Female Goddesses) I am dedicating this one to you gentlemen, all our men out there.

Before you start reading all the Men's Health Magazines articles on "How to Make Her Wild and Happy" there is just one simple thing you need to know on how to let your woman open up in bed and surrender to her unbridled passion. For, believe me, all women have it in them, it's natural to us as we are the bearers of life. It's just some are a little more guarded than the others, some are simply too worried, etc. Once a woman opens up in bed, you'll know what Heaven feels like.

So what is the ONE thing you need to do to let your woman open up and let it be an out of this world sexual experience?
Here it is: Make her feel safe. She needs to feel safe with you. Sounds simple, doesn't it? The truth is very few men make us feel safe around them. All women might explain differently what a sense of safety feels to them, and it could be somewhat different to some. But I'll give you a general description.

Being intimate with a partner is the most vulnerable experience that happens to us. Whatever she tells you, deep inside she knows that each time she is intimate with you, she gives a little part of herself away to you, with each time, she fills her cells with tenderness and connection to you. She takes your body in and she lets you into her heart.

When we don't feel safe with a partner, in other words, know that we shouldn't let him into our bodies and ultimately into our hearts, we start protecting ourselves. We don't let ourselves open up, and are constantly on guard, even during an orgasm (if it's a real one:).
When we feel safe with a partner, we open our bodies, we open our hearts, and we let our minds go. That's when the best sexual experience happens. (and real orgasms:)

So how do you make her feel safe? Well it depends on a personality. You just need to figure it out, listen to her, observe her. For me, for instance, it's when I know that I am with a man who takes care of things and I can simply relax and be a beautiful sensual woman. He is with me and I am the only one he wants and needs. I can rely on him, I feel safe and taken care of. Even as simple as making sure, I am fed and feeling comfortable and at ease wherever we are. He makes me feel like home. He picks me up and carries me to bed:) He puts my feet between his legs to make them warm. He brings me a glass of water to bed if I am thirsty. I can go on:)))


He knows how fragile women are (even the ones who seem very strong:) and need to be shown that they are in no danger with him. Basically, we need to see that you you've got our back if anything happens. You put us first.

I know it's a bit different from all the tips you've read in men's magazines. But this is the only truth if you want it. And I am sure you do, if it's something real(authentic) that you're looking for.

I'm here if you have any questions:)

Life is like an ocean

Today during my yoga practice, the teacher shared the following thought:

"Life is like an ocean. You're standing in it, and then the wave comes your way and knocks you down. You fall deep down with sand in your hair, your clothes, your eyes and throat. Then you get up and see the wave goes away and breaks down. Then a new one comes in and you get knocked down again. And so on and so on, until the time you build resistance and can handle the wave. And then when you get strong, there are no waves anymore but still calm waters."

Perfect timing for this wisdon really as today has been one of those days for me when I felt vulnerable. You know those days, when for no particular reason, you feel small and fragile, as if thrown into the deep ocean away from your loved ones, all by yourself and no one to hang on to? I am sure we all have those days, even the strongest of us:)
Of course those days are rare for me, simply because I can't afford them in my life. But whenever I feel that way, I just want to go back to the time I was a little girl, and my dad carried me in his strong arms. Just a memory of it makes me feel safe and loved.
Whenever we feel unsafe and need some loving, we just need to think of something or someone who made us feel safe and happy. In my case, my dad carrying me. I am sure we all have some memories from childhood when we felt safe and loved.

The days we feel small and vulnerable should be cherished. It's so rare we let ourselves feel that way due to our ego, but deep down we are sensitive beings and want to be loved and cared for. Even though I feel vulnerable I feel the most innocent at the time. It's like all I need is my loved ones around me and feel like I am home. Nothing else matters. Ego is gone and only what really matters in life (love and companionship) is present. Those feelings are important to feel grounded and to understand what really matters in life. So embrace them and treat them with all the love you can give. Think of your loved ones, your parents, your siblings, reach out to them if possible. Or simply hold them in your heart and know they are there for you, just like you are there for them.

And if you ever feel that way and have no one to turn to, email me:) Just reaching out will make all the difference. The most important thing is to see the beauty in feeling that way. We are all connected and love indeed is all there is. We forget about that and feel that it's us against the world. This leads to fear and unhappiness. So when we feel small and vulnerable it's the God's way to bring us back to awareness that we are all one and with God. No fear, just love.

Namaste.

P.S. here are some pics of me and my family (on camel is my older sister). I was born in 80's, in Russia, in case you were wondering about the quality of pics, and my mum's cool hair:)