Steve Jobs: How to live before you die | Video on TED.com

Steven Jobs was a gift to this world. It's with sadness yet greatest appreciation for his life and contribution that I want to say Good bye to one of the greatest men of our times. The video (below) with his speech to graduates gives some idea on why this man was special and made a difference in the world.
His messages are:

1) Connecting dots. It's only when looking back that we can connect the dots so take a leap of faith and follow your heart;

2) Love and loss. Keep looking, never settle. Follow your heart;

3) Death. Remembering that you're going to die gives no reason to not follow your heart. Your time is limited so don't waste it on living someone else's life. Follow your heart and intuition. They somehow know what you truly want to become.

Do you see that in all of his messages, he stresses on importance of following your heart. Be it in what you want to do, love, or anything else. I stand by it, as you already know it if you read my blog. And Steve Jobs's life couldn't be a better example on why this is the best and only way we should live our lives.

With all my love and respect to Steve Jobs, a man who followed his heart.

Steve Jobs: How to live before you die Video on TED.com

Update II

I realize that you might be curious on where I am standing now as far as dating is concerned. Well let me tell you, it's raining men... After my last summer shenanigans and an unsuccessful ending on all counts I took some time to reflect, mostly, on what it was that I really wanted, and why I had a disconnect between what I believed I wanted and what was materializing in my physical reality.

I truly believe that everything that happens to us is of our own making, we have a complete responsibility. Therefore I realize the reason I've been unsuccessful so far in creating a happy relationship (as planned) is definitely something I need to search inside myself. Could it be that I am not ready as much as I would like to think? Could it be that I am scared to fall again? Could it be that I just don't believe it's possible? Could it be that I am not listening to myself? Could it be that I secretly want to be single and independent? I could ask myself many many questions on a possibility of this issue. But they are all rhetorical questions. The ones all those self-help books tell you to ask yourself to search for the reasons. But can we all use the same approach? Aren't we all unique and need unique ways to look for the answers?
After somewhat exhaustive soul searching, all I could come up with was it's many answers and most of them I probably won't know till I know.. But for now I find comfort in telling myself one of my favorite quotes from a movie Risky Business: Sometimes you just gotta say "What the fuck. Make your move."

Yes what the fuck... I don't know the answers right this second (not just yet), and you know what I don't give a f**. At least not for now. I believe I'll have the answers one day, and might not even care about them as much by then. But for now, I decided to just make a move. I'm dating again! Yes, I just happened to find myself in a high demand these days. when the markets are stumbling, my stock has never been higher :)
Joke aside though, I've never had so much attention in my life.. And I have a sneaky suspicion it has something to do with my Whatever approach. I just want to live my life and follow my heart, with no fears, no analysis, no judgment, no reservation. Just with the flow.
And let me tell you, I am living and feeling differently and yet so authentically this time around. All I am doing is being internally happy and complete with myself, simply observing people around, being open and approachable, but not exposed. And just listening to my heart, my voice within. For this is the wisdom and I trust it completely. And if I don't hear it, I just do nothing before I hear it. Also acknowledging that it might not speak for there is nothing yet to say and it will speak loud enough for me to hear when I need it. I reserve my heart to only follow its instincts, no mind chatter, no social boundaries, no cold analysis. Just my heart, just my gut, just my instincts. Let's see where they take me. But I couldn't be more excited and yet so peaceful. At last..

Update

Hi all,

I just wanted to give a quick update in case you were wondering where the hell I disappeared again. I didn't fly back to Spain though it crosses my mind at least once a day every day since I got back. Neither have I withdrawn to recharge my batteries as I did a couple of months ago. Nor have I madly fallen in love and been spending most of my awaken time in a lala land.

It's a crunch time at work (the one that pays my bills and beats my brains out, wink)..

Besides, I started an experiment on dating which takes the rest of my free time. I promise I will share about it in a greater detail once I have more facts and do my analysis (sorry for the inappropriate language, too hard to switch my mind right now).

So for now just letting you know that I am on it. That is, on my dating experiment. Details to follow.

Peace

A Giant Umbrella

This post I want to start with a silly question. What is more ridiculous than a bow tie? giving you 10 seconds, go. Answer: A giant umbrella. You didn't see that coming did you?

Well I'll tell you what, I noticed a giant umbrella's existence long ago but today while walking home in the rain I just couldn't ignore its presence anymore. You know which one I am talking about? It usually has a company's logo on it and it's by all standards huge, gigantic indeed. It's like a cherry grown on pesticides. It's oversized. I can't stop. It could fit 5 of me (size 2 and grinning:) under it. You get the point!

Seriously it takes up half the street. And who carries it but a guy in a suit, with a tie. Of course, it's not even him carrying it, its his ego all the way. Here is my message to all of you, clean cut guys out there, when you know it's going to rain and you'll be proudly parading with your giant umbrella please put on a bow tie. That way you'll kill two birds with one stone. Just a tip and free of charge.

What would Freud say about such a distasteful display? Small penis perhaps? Just curious..

Anyway this post is in no way to offend the proud owners of a gigantic umbrella given them at some company's event or as a gift from someone who has a small penis. I do realize it could be due to the fact that it was the only umbrella available and who wants to get wet? Though I have more sympathy for the people with umbrellas that look like a spider web and just as dangerous to get close to for they will poke you in the eye. We all have them. It's the destiny of all umbrellas bought from a guy on the street for 5 bucks. Just get one and you'll find out for yourself.
This post is just to give you an idea what it looks like to an innocent observer. Me.

And what umbrella did I have today? As simple as it gets, no umbrella. Yes, I walked 45 blocks with rain falling on me. I was wet from head to toe which I so much more prefer than a giant umbrella taking up half the street, knocking off everyone walking by, and sending a questionable message about my sexuality..

Back in NYC

Hi all,

Just wanted to check in and let you all know that I am back in New York. Actually have been back for several days now but still feel out of place if you know what I mean. First of all, the trip itself was extremely awakening (I'll explain later). Secondly, it's always hard to come back to polluted air, stressed out people, and bad wine..
Seriously what is it with the pace in the city. Why is everyone running as if we all have a plane to catch? If the reason being late, why not just leave earlier? If the reason too many things to do, why not just do less? I don't know I am feeling it more than ever this time and it seems like a waste of life to me right now. We just don't ever stop and enjoy the day here. Even if there is no particular reason it's still a marathon to get from point A to point B. Europe is different. Maybe other cities in the US are different too but they are dull really. While in Europe you can be happily lazy, i.e. enjoy life at a very slow pace filled with fun things..
Sorry for digressing but I needed to explain why I'm feeling out of place since I got back from Spain. and have been avoiding my responsibilities, wink..

Anyway, the trip was amazing on many levels, yet as I already mentioned awakening too. Something absolutely unexpected happened in relation with my sibling and my own perception of the world. My sister and I had some unsettling developments that made me question many important life aspects. Most importantly, trust and belonging. It's too complex to explain. Besides, due to our family ties I have no intention on keeping it other than hers and my own business.
Then an amazing guy I met 2 years ago (and reconnected with every time I went to Spain) brought me to a place that I can say with no doubt is a Heaven on Earth. It was a beach right on the tip of the south of Spain, and where the Mediterranean sea meets the Atlantic Ocean. I am not going to describe it for there is no way I could ever do it. All I can say that when I was there I thought that this place was a reality in it's pure Godly form and everything else was just an illusion created by man.
I was touched by the events that happened to me during my trip. They made me look at life and people around me differently which made me happy and sad at the same time. Sad for realizing that I was very often wasting myself on undeserving people and that it took me awhile to realize it. Happy that I finally was able to see that and realize that it wouldn't happen again. I was able to see again that there are people you can trust and guys who can make you feel happy and safe even if just for the time spent together. I feel that I was able to turn back time and go back to being 20. Not only outside (my breakouts and freckles keep confusing people about my true age) but also inside. I learned how to trust again. I also realized that it was natural for me to trust and it is so much easier to do than not to.
The reason I lost it in the first place was because since coming to the US I always dated men relatively older than me (10-17 years senior) as I was looking for a father figure. You see, growing up, I was very close with my dad (more than my mom), and unconsciously was trying to replace him here with older men. Side effects were manipulation on their part and my lost trust in men as a result. It took me 9 years to realize that but as they say it's better late than never :) I could be wrong that this was the only reason for my lost trust, but I believe it was a major one. As I explore more on that subject, I am sure to let you know.

But for now, I will put a stop to this post as it's getting too long and most people already stopped reading it (too many things to do in NY), and I am not about to push myself either. But I will continue and it will be a fresh start, a fresh pair of eyes, still my true heart but with my newly reawaken faith.